For Mums drowning in the relentless tsunami of their neurodivergent child’s meltdowns.
The PAUSE Method™
is your life raft.
Before we go any further, let me say this clearly:
You are not failing.
You are not doing this wrong.
And you are not alone.
You’re parenting a child with a different nervous system — without the support you should have had from the start.
And that’s exhausting.
You don’t need any more generic parenting advice from people who don’t actually understand what life is like when meltdowns are part of your daily reality.
You don’t need sticker charts, screen bans, “just be firmer” comments or any other well-meaning suggestion that works beautifully… for children who aren’t neurodivergent
What you need is a clear, steady plan that works with your child’s brain — and supports yours too.
Because this is what your days really look like…
Your child is on the kitchen floor screaming because their trousers are too scratchy.
You’re already late for the school run.
Your hands are shaking.
And you don’t know whether to wait it out, comfort them, or threaten the 100th consequence of the morning (even though you already know it won’t help).
Your whole body braces — because you recognise the signs instantly.
The look.
The stiffness.
The noise.
You know exactly where this is heading.
And suddenly you’re back in the eye of the storm for the fifth time before breakfast.
You walk on eggshells, constantly afraid of the next “irrational” thing that might set them off — the wrong bowl, the snapped biscuit, the wrong cereal.
When family members or the school-drop-off mafia suggest firmer discipline, something inside you crumbles.
Because they don’t see what you see.
And even though you’ve already tried all the charts, systems and strategies hundreds of times, a small part of you still wonders:
“Maybe this time it will work. Maybe this is what good parenting looks like.”
And when it doesn’t?
You quietly decide this must be a you problem.
If this is you — pause here for a moment.
Nothing about this means you’re a bad parent.
It means you’re overwhelmed, under-supported, and trying to parent a neurodivergent child without a map — while your own nervous system is completely spent.
That’s not a character flaw.
That’s burnout.
And it is fixable.
The PAUSE Method™
Created by a teacher, coach & mum who’s been there
You’re not failing. You’re not alone. Your child isn’t ‘bad’.
Before we talk about what’s included, here’s what matters most:
This isn’t about fixing your child.
And it’s not about becoming a different parent.
The PAUSE Method™ is about giving you something steady to come back to —
especially when emotions are high and your brain can’t hold any more information.
It’s a simple, compassionate 5-step approach that works with your child’s neurodivergent brain — instead of fighting against it — so meltdowns stop feeling like emergencies you have to survive.
You don’t have to guess.
You don’t have to react.
You don’t have to hold everything in your head.
You just PAUSE™.
The PAUSE Method™ helps you:
Understand what’s really happening in the moment — for your child and for you
Interrupt the escalation before it tips into a full meltdown
Respond with calm, grounded confidence — even when you’re tired or triggered
Hold boundaries without shouting, freezing, or spiralling into guilt
Rebuild connection, so parenting stops feeling like constant conflict
This isn’t about being perfect.
It’s about having a reliable anchor you can return to — again and again — on real-life days.
It’s about helping both of you feel safer in your bodies again, so you can finally breathe — and respond with confidence instead of survival mode.
What PAUSE™ actually helps you do
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What PAUSE™ actually helps you do *
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What’s happening in your child’s body when emotions take over.
This is where you stop thinking “are they just being naughty?” and discover the science behind your child’s ‘explosions’. It changes EVERYTHING.
You will create a personalised “in-the-moment” plan that will de-escalate the VERY next meltdown you face — calmly, quickly, and confidently.
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Calming yourself first so you can guide them back to safety.
This is where you finally ditch the guilt about your reactions - you’re not a bad mum for yelling - this is what happens when your nervous system is pushed beyond its capacity.
Discover a grounding technique with instant impact, so you stay steady even when your child is spiralling.
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Noticing and challenging the stories that fuel frustration or guilt.
This is where you stop asking “How will they ever manage to hold down a job if they treat their own mum like this?”
Use my brain-hack strategy to shift unhelpful thoughts and rewire your responses — creating calmer reactions without the guilt spiral.
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Seeing behaviour as a sign of overload, not defiance.
This is where you see how much your child is actually tolerating, and what’s pushing them over the edge.
Build a simple plan to instantly reduce daily overwhelm — and start seeing your child cope better with demands straight away.
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Setting calm, consistent limits that build trust and connection.
This is where you move beyond the meltdowns and towards a home that feels safe for EVERYONE, without compromising on your values.
Steal my boundary-setting formula so you can approach tricky conversations with confidence — firm, clear, and without starting a war.
Included support — so you’re not figuring this out alone
Alongside the core PAUSE Method™, you’ll also receive practical support designed to make this easier to use in real life:
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The PAUSE Method™ Wall Chart
A clear, visual reminder you can keep nearby — so you’re not trying to remember what to do when emotions are already high.
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The PAUSE Pocket Pack™
A small, portable set of visuals and prompts you can keep with you — at home or out and about — to help you come back to PAUSE™ in the moment.
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Guidance on using visuals effectively
Simple support to help you use visuals in a way that actually helps your child — without turning this into another thing to “get right”.
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£25 off optional 1:1 coaching
If you ever want more personalised support, you’ll have a reduced-rate option available — no pressure, just support when and if you need it.
These 5 simple steps change everything
What you get inside PAUSE™ is designed for low capacity days - because that’s when you need support most:
🎥 5 short, on-demand video lessons
Each step is broken down into clear, manageable guidance you can access anytime.
You don’t need to binge or keep up.
You can start with just one 10-minute video and use it immediately in your next hard moment.
🕰️Short, accessible lessons that fit your life
All videos are under 15 minutes and can be:
✔ Watched
✔ Or listened to like a podcast
Whether you’re:
✔ Cooking dinner
✔ On the school run
✔ Sitting at your desk trying to reset…
This fits around you — not the other way around.
📝 Practical tools for when your brain goes blank
You’ll get simple, printable resources that take the thinking out of the hardest moments.
So instead of scrambling to remember what to do while emotions are already high,
you have something concrete to reach for — right when you need it.
🧠 Visuals & real-life examples that make it click
You’ll see what’s actually happening beneath the behaviour —
so meltdowns stop feeling random, personal, or out of your control.
When things make sense, panic softens.
And confidence has room to grow.
🧰 Ready-to-use scripts and in-the-moment plans
So you know exactly:
✔ What to say
✔ What to do
✔ And what not to do
Even when you’re exhausted, triggered, or doubting yourself.
No more freezing.
No more shouting.
No more replaying it all in your head afterwards.
🔓 Lifetime access - on your terms
There’s no pressure to “finish” anything.
You can:
✔ Dip in when life is busy
✔ Revisit what you need
✔ Let this support you over time
This grows with you — not ahead of you.
This will feel right for you if…
You’re exhausted from firefighting every day and want a calmer, more connected way forward
You’ve tried the charts, consequences, and advice — and it hasn’t helped your real life
You want guidance that still works when you’re tired, emotional, or doubting yourself
You’re ready to stop guessing and follow a clear, compassionate plan you can trust
You want to feel calmer and more confident around your child — not on edge all the time
This is for the mum who knows something has to change —
not because she’s failing, but because this isn’t sustainable.
This may not be the right fit if…
You’re looking for a quick behaviour fix without understanding what’s underneath
You’re hoping things will improve on their own with time
You’re not ready to change how you respond yet
And that’s okay.
PAUSE™ isn’t about doing more or trying harder.
It’s about learning a different way — one that supports your child and protects you.
I created The PAUSE Method™ to give parents a calmer, clearer way through.
I’m an educator, parent coach, and mum to neurodivergent twins — and I know how heavy this can feel.
I’ve lived the screaming mornings, the shutdowns, the guilt, and the moments where you’re trying to hold it together while quietly wondering how things got this hard.
I also know this: nothing was wrong with me — and nothing was wrong with my children.
What was missing was the right understanding and the right support.
Alongside parenting my own children, I’ve spent 19+ years working in education, most recently specialising in SEN and supporting hundreds of parents and young people through their hardest moments. Over time, I began to see the same pattern again and again:
Capable, loving parents — exhausted, overwhelmed, and blaming themselves — simply because they were using strategies that didn’t match their child’s nervous system.
That’s why I created The PAUSE Method™.
Not as another theory to remember,
but as a clear, compassionate roadmap you can rely on when things feel messy, loud, and unpredictable.
PAUSE™ gives you something steady to come back to — so you can respond with confidence instead of panic, reconnect with your child, and feel like yourself again as a parent.
You don’t need to be calmer.
You don’t need to try harder.
You just need the right support.
And I’d love to offer you that.
What happens when mums have the right support:
“I now see things far more clearly from my son’s perspective - and I now know how to help him.”
Sarah
“Laura breaks everything down into easy steps and explains things in a way that no one ever has before. Things feel so different now.”
Catharine
“It’s helped me make lasting change for my family. I don’t dread mornings any more!”
Rebecca
A simple 5-step guide you can rely on when things feel hard
The PAUSE Method™ isn’t about fixing behaviour or pushing through until you’re exhausted.
It’s a clear, repeatable approach you can come back to when emotions rise — so you’re not guessing, panicking, or second-guessing yourself.
Here’s what PAUSE™ gives you in real life:
✔ Clarity in the moment
So meltdowns stop feeling random or personal — and you know what will actually help.
✔ Support for both nervous systems
Because helping your child regulate starts with feeling steadier yourself.
✔ A plan you don’t have to remember perfectly
Just a reliable framework you can lean on when you’re tired, emotional, or unsure what to do next.
✔ Confidence without guilt
So you can hold boundaries, stay connected, and stop replaying everything afterwards.
✔ Change you can feel
Not because everything suddenly becomes easy —
but because you feel calmer, clearer, and more capable in the moments that matter.
Why this matters
PAUSE™ gives you something solid to hold onto when advice is loud, emotions are high.
It’s not about doing more.
It’s about finally having the right support.
Instant access • Go at your pace
The PAUSE Method™
saves you time, tears and so much unnecessary guilt.
The PAUSE Method™ isn’t about fixing everything overnight.
It’s about making daily life feel more manageable — especially when things get hard.
It saves you time because you’re no longer:
Guessing what to do
Trying a new strategy every week
Replaying every meltdown in your head afterwards
It saves you tears because you finally understand:
What your child is communicating
What actually helps in the moment
And why this was never about you “getting it wrong”
And it eases the guilt — because you stop blaming yourself for things that were never within your control to begin with.
Instead of feeling constantly on edge, you have:
A plan you trust
Language that makes sense
And permission to parent from connection, not survival
That’s what PAUSE™ gives you back.
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The PAUSE Method™
When everything feels too much, remember one word: PAUSE™
You don’t need to figure everything out today.
You don’t need to fix everything at once.
You just need something solid to come back to when emotions are high and you’re not sure what to do next.
The PAUSE Method™ gives you that anchor.
It’s calm guidance you can trust.
A clear plan you don’t have to hold perfectly.
Support you can return to again and again — on real-life days.
Get instant access to The PAUSE Method™
✔ 5 short, on-demand video lessons (watch or listen anytime)
✔ Calm, practical guidance for hard moments
✔ Printable tools and visual supports
✔ Ready-to-use scripts so you’re not guessing
✔ Lifetime access — at your own pace
No live calls.
No pressure to keep up.
No expectation that you’ll be “calm” all the time.
Just support that meets you where you are.
The PAUSE Method™
£97 £48.50 - Lifetime access
A one-time payment. No subscriptions.
Something you can return to whenever you need it.
This is your invitation to stop surviving
To stop second-guessing yourself.
To stop carrying this alone.
To stop feeling like you’re failing at something that was never meant to be done without support.
You don’t need to try harder.
You don’t need to be different.
You just need the right guidance.
One last thing
If you’re reading this and thinking:
“I can’t keep doing things the way they are.”
That’s not weakness.
That’s clarity.
And you’re in the right place.
Still wondering if it’s right for you?
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The PAUSE Method™ is a self-guided digital course based around a simple 5-step framework that helps you understand what’s really going on behind your child’s BIG emotions — and how to respond calmly instead of reacting.
P – Physiology – What’s happening in your child’s body when emotions take over.
A – Awareness – Calming yourself first so you can guide them back to safety.
U – Unhelpful Thoughts – Noticing and challenging the stories that fuel frustration or guilt.
S – Stress & Demands – Seeing behaviour as a sign of overload, not defiance.
E – Establish Boundaries – Setting calm, consistent limits that build trust and connection.It’s about pausing before reacting — and learning to respond with confidence, compassion, and understanding.
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Calm In The Chaos: Practical, gentle tools that actually work in the heat of the moment, with an easy-to-remember plan when nothing else seems to work.
Connection That Lasts: A clear path to move beyond survival mode and into rhythms that feel safe and sustainable, so you can reconnect with your child and with yourself.
Less Guilt, More Confidence: A non-judgemental approach that’s rooted in real-life experience and genuine compassion, not shame, blame, or trying to “fix” your child.
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Absolutely! I have literally created The PAUSE Method™ with you in mind! I was in your shoes, I couldn't attend the local community group sessions at 11am on a Tuesday (I was at work), I couldn’t jump on a live call at 7pm on a Wednesday night (the evening doom hours!). I needed something I could access on MY SCHEDULE.
The PAUSE Method™ is exactly that. You can watch the videos or simply listen to them podcast style. You can come back to them whenever you want/need. They’re short and bitesized, you won’t feel overwhelmed by them no matter how busy you are at work or at home. This is the support I needed back when I was ‘in the thick of it’.
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In step 1, P for Physiology, you will learn what is happening to your child when they are in meltdown. This knowledge, combined with the step-by-step action plan and script inside, will change the way you approach the VERY next meltdown (that's just a 10 minute session!).
The change in your response will positively impact on your child immediately.
The PAUSE Method™ will continue to guide you through with compassion so that meltdowns will feel less frequent, less ferocious and less overwhelming, one 10-15 minute step at a time.
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This is why I created The PAUSE Method™. It’s not a full directory, it’s not trying to teach you EVERYTHING you need to know about your child. Because I’ve seen too many parents just like me, who are struggling to just make it through each day - theory doesn’t help us, it overwhelms us.
We need simple, practical steps to get a handle on the meltdowns that are completely consuming us. Until we can find a way to press PAUSE on the meltdown cycle, all the theory in the world isn’t going to help us.
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Lots of people have been booking in for 1:1 support from me once they have worked through The PAUSE Method™ to really help them get clear on what’s going on in other areas of their child’s life, so I thought I’d sweeten the deal for you. On top of your massive 50% saving, you will also get a FREE Bonus Bundle including The PAUSE Wallchart™, PAUSE Pocket Pack™ and discount on 1:1 Coaching worth a total of £62!!
The total value of this bundle is £159 but you can grab it today for just £48.50!
PS: If now’s not the time for the full course, that’s totally okay.
You can still get started with my free meltdown masterclass, Before The PAUSE™ right here