You lie awake convinced that you’re failing your child.
You love them but you hate the meltdowns
… and the guilt is eating you up.
The PAUSE Method™
Replaces the guesswork and overwhelm of your neurodivergent child’s meltdowns, so you can actually help them when they are in distress — even on the hardest days.
Choose Your Level of Support :
Self-Guided or with 1:1 coaching to help you apply PAUSE™ to your life.
You’re trying to learn everything you can to help your child: reading every theory; googling into the early hours; searching for the best therapies, attending the Local Authority training sessions … all whilst trying to hold down your job and run a home.
You know all the research will help you in the end… but it’s not helping right now when your morning looks like this:
Your child is on the kitchen floor screaming because their trousers are too scratchy.
You’re already late for the school run.
Your hands are shaking.
And you don’t know whether to wait it out, comfort them, or threaten the 100th consequence of the morning (even though you already know it won’t help).
And inevitably, you end up yelling - again. You feel like a monster. Your child has actual special needs - but you don’t know what to do to help them.
All the theory in the world doesn’t help in the moment of your child’s meltdown.
You’re living in survival mode every day, second guessing every parenting decision you make - “Am I being too soft?“ “Am I making things worse?” “If I ‘let this go’, am I teaching them it’s okay to treat me like this?”.
You just want the meltdowns to PAUSE so that you can catch your breath and actually feel in control of how you respond.
But here’s what no-one tells you:
Meltdowns are NOT a sign of bad parenting. They’re a sign of unmet needs — yours included.
You are not failing.
You are not doing this wrong.
And you are not alone.
You’re parenting a child with a different nervous system — without the right support.
And that’s exhausting.
You don’t need more theory.
And you don’t need sticker charts, screen bans, to “just be firmer” or any other well-meaning suggestions from people who just don’t get it.
What you need is a clear, steady plan that works with your child’s brain — and supports YOU too.
The PAUSE Method™
Created by a teacher, coach & mum who’s been there
You’re not failing. You’re not alone. Your child isn’t ‘bad’.
This is NOT about fixing your child (they’re not broken).
And it’s NOT about studying a PHD in neuroscience (you don’t need to master everything to make meaningful change).
The PAUSE Method™ is about giving you something steady to come back to —
when emotions are high and your brain can’t put theory into practice.
It’s a simple, compassionate 5-step approach that works with your child’s neurodivergent brain AND your own nervous system — instead of fighting against them — so meltdowns stop feeling like emergencies you have to survive.
You don’t have to guess.
You don’t have to react.
You don’t have to hold everything.
You just PAUSE™.
The PAUSE Method™ helps you:
Understand what’s really happening in the moment — for your child AND for you
Interrupt the escalation before it tips into a full meltdown
Respond with calm, grounded confidence — even when you’re tired or triggered
Hold boundaries without shouting, freezing, or spiralling into guilt
Rebuild connection, so parenting stops feeling like constant conflict
This isn’t about being perfect.
It’s about having a reliable plan you can return to — again and again — on real-life days.
It’s about helping both of you feel safer and more connected, so that your home feels less like a battle field and more like the safe and supportive environment are determined to create.
What PAUSE™ actually helps you do
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What PAUSE™ actually helps you do *
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What’s happening in your child’s body when emotions take over.
This is where you stop thinking “are they just being naughty?” and discover the science behind your child’s ‘explosions’. It changes EVERYTHING.
You will create a personalised “in-the-moment” plan that will de-escalate the VERY next meltdown you face — calmly, quickly, and confidently.
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Calming yourself first so you can guide them back to safety.
This is where you finally ditch the guilt about your reactions - you’re not a bad mum for yelling - this is what happens when your nervous system is pushed beyond its capacity.
Discover a grounding technique with instant impact, so you stay steady even when your child is spiralling.
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Noticing and challenging the stories that fuel frustration or guilt.
This is where you stop asking “How will they ever manage to hold down a job if they treat their own mum like this?”
Use my brain-hack strategy to shift unhelpful thoughts and rewire your responses — creating calmer reactions without the guilt spiral.
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Seeing behaviour as a sign of overload, not defiance.
This is where you see how much your child is actually tolerating, and what’s pushing them over the edge.
Build a simple plan to instantly reduce daily overwhelm — and start seeing your child cope better with demands straight away.
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Setting calm, consistent limits that build trust and connection.
This is where you move beyond the meltdowns and towards a home that feels safe for EVERYONE, without compromising on your values.
Steal my boundary-setting formula so you can approach tricky conversations with confidence — firm, clear, and without starting a war.
Included support — so you’re not figuring this out alone
Alongside the core PAUSE Method™, you’ll also receive practical support designed to make this easier to use in real life:
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The PAUSE Method™ Wall Chart
A clear, visual reminder you can keep nearby — so you’re not trying to remember what to do when emotions are already high.
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The PAUSE Pocket Pack™
A small, portable set of visuals and prompts you can keep with you — at home or out and about — to help you come back to PAUSE™ in the moment.
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Guidance on using visuals effectively
Simple support to help you use visuals in a way that actually helps your child — without turning this into another thing to “get right”.
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25% off optional 1:1 coaching
If you ever want more personalised support, you’ll have a reduced-rate option available — no pressure, just support when and if you need it.
These 5 simple steps change everything
What you get inside PAUSE™:
🎥 5 short, on-demand video lessons
Each step is broken down into clear, manageable guidance you can access anytime.
You don’t need to binge or keep up.
You can start with just one 10-minute video and use it immediately in your next hard moment.
🕰️Short, accessible lessons that fit your life
All videos are under 15 minutes and can be watched or listened to like a podcast.
Whether you’re cooking dinner, on the school run or sitting at your desk trying to reset…
This fits around you — not the other way around.
📝 Practical tools for when your brain goes blank
You’ll get simple, printable resources that take the thinking out of the hardest moments.
So instead of scrambling to remember what to do while emotions are already high,
you have something concrete to reach for — right when you need it.
🧠 Visuals & real-life examples that make it click
You’ll see what’s actually happening beneath the behaviour —
so meltdowns stop feeling random, personal, or out of your control.
When things make sense, panic softens.
And confidence has room to grow.
🧰 Ready-to-use scripts and in-the-moment plans
So you know exactly:
✔ What to say
✔ What to do
✔ And what not to do
Even when you’re exhausted, triggered, or doubting yourself.
No more freezing.
No more shouting.
No more replaying it all in your head afterwards.
🔓 Lifetime access - on your terms
There’s no pressure to “finish” anything.
You can:
✔ Dip in when life is busy
✔ Revisit what you need
✔ Let this support you over time
This grows with you — not ahead of you.
🤝 Optional 1:1 Support — if you’d like it
PAUSE™ is designed to work beautifully on its own.
But if you’d value more personalised guidance, optional 1:1 support is available.
This gives you the space to:
✔ Talk through your child’s specific patterns
✔ Apply PAUSE™ to your hardest real-life moments
✔ Feel supported as you build confidence step by step
No pressure.
Just the reassurance that you don’t have to figure it all out alone.
This will feel right for you if…
You’re ready to stop firefighting every day and you’re determined to find a calmer, more connected way forward
You’ve tried the charts, consequences, and other ‘helpful’ parenting advice — and it hasn’t helped your real life
You want guidance that still works when you’re tired, emotional, or doubting yourself
You’re ready to stop guessing and start following a clear, compassionate plan you can trust
You want to feel calmer and more confident around your child — not on edge all the time
This is for the mum who knows something has to change —
not because she’s failing, but because this isn’t sustainable.
This may not be the right fit if…
You’re looking for a quick behaviour fix without understanding what’s underneath
You’re hoping things will improve on their own with time
You’re not ready to change how you respond yet
And that’s okay.
PAUSE™ isn’t about doing more or trying harder.
It’s about learning a different way — one that supports your child and protects you.
I created The PAUSE Method™ to give parents a calmer, clearer way through.
I’m an educator, parent coach, and mum to neurodivergent twins and I know how heavy this can feel.
I’ve lived the screaming mornings, the shutdowns, the guilt for ‘losing it’ more often than not. I tried so hard to learn everything to be a better parent, and felt like a failure when none of it helped.
I also know this: nothing was wrong with me — and nothing was wrong with my children.
What was missing was the right understanding and the right support for all of us.
Alongside parenting my own children, I’ve spent 19+ years working in education, most recently specialising in SEN and supporting hundreds of parents and young people through their hardest moments. Over time, I began to see the same pattern again and again:
Capable, loving parents — exhausted, overwhelmed, and blaming themselves — simply because they were focussing on strategies that didn’t honour either nervous system.
That’s why I created The PAUSE Method™.
Not as another theory to overwhelm you,
but as a clear, compassionate roadmap you can rely on when things feel messy, loud, and unpredictable.
PAUSE™ gives you something steady to come back to — so you can respond with confidence instead of panic, reconnect with your child, and feel like yourself again as a parent.
You don’t need to be calmer.
You don’t need to try harder.
You just need the right support.
And I’d love to offer you that.
What happens when mums have the right support:
“I now see things far more clearly from my son’s perspective - and I now know how to help him.”
Sarah
“Laura breaks everything down into easy steps and explains things in a way that no one ever has before. Things feel so different now.”
Catharine
“It’s helped me make lasting change for my family. I don’t dread mornings any more!”
Rebecca
A simple 5-step guide you can rely on when things feel hard
The PAUSE Method™ isn’t about fixing behaviour or pushing through until you’re exhausted.
It’s a clear, repeatable approach you can come back to when emotions rise — so you’re not guessing, panicking, or second-guessing yourself.
Here’s what PAUSE™ gives you in real life:
✔ Clarity in the moment
So meltdowns stop feeling random or personal — and you know what will actually help.
✔ Support for both nervous systems
Because helping your child regulate starts with feeling steadier yourself.
✔ A plan you don’t have to remember perfectly
Just a reliable framework you can lean on when you’re tired, emotional, or unsure what to do next.
✔ Confidence without guilt
So you can hold boundaries, stay connected, and stop replaying everything afterwards.
✔ Change you can feel
Not because everything suddenly becomes easy —
but because you feel calmer, clearer, and more capable in the moments that matter.
Why this matters
PAUSE™ gives you something solid to hold onto when advice is loud, emotions are high and you just need a plan that works.
It’s not about doing more.
It’s about finally having the right support.
Instant access • Go at your pace
The PAUSE Method™
saves you time, tears and so much unnecessary guilt.
The PAUSE Method™ isn’t about fixing everything overnight.
It’s about making daily life feel more manageable — especially when things get hard.
It saves you time because you’re no longer:
Guessing what to do
Trying a new strategy every week
Replaying every meltdown in your head afterwards
It saves you tears because you finally understand:
What your child is communicating
What actually helps in the moment
And why this was never about you “getting it wrong”
And it eases the guilt — because you stop blaming yourself for things that were never within your control to begin with.
Instead of feeling constantly on edge, you have:
A plan you trust
Language that makes sense
And permission to parent from connection, not survival
That’s what PAUSE™ gives you back.
The PAUSE Method™
When everything feels too much, remember one word: PAUSE™
You don’t need to figure everything out today.
You don’t need to fix everything at once.
You just need something solid to come back to when emotions are high and you’re not sure what to do next.
The PAUSE Method™ gives you that anchor.
It’s calm guidance you can trust.
A clear plan you don’t have to hold perfectly.
Support you can return to again and again — on real-life days.
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Get instant access to The PAUSE Method™
✔ 5 short, on-demand video lessons (watch or listen anytime)
✔ Calm, practical guidance for hard moments
✔ Printable tools and visual supports
✔ Ready-to-use scripts so you’re not guessing
✔ Lifetime access — at your own pace
✔ Optional 1:1 support if you would like it
The PAUSE Method™
Three Levels of Support
The complete PAUSE Method™ digital course.
A one-time payment. Lifetime access. Go at your own pace.
Something you can return to whenever you need it.
Upgrade for just £26.50 more and get the complete PAUSE Method™ digital course + a 60-minute private implementation call with Laura (normally £95).
Learn the framework — then apply it confidently to your real-life challenges with personalised guidance and support.
A structured integration package including the complete PAUSE Method™ digital course, four private sessions with Laura (typically £380), and supportive email guidance between sessions.
Personalised guidance to help you apply PAUSE™ to your child, your nervous system, and your real-life challenges — with steady support as you embed lasting change.
This is your invitation to stop surviving
To stop second-guessing yourself.
To stop carrying this alone.
To stop feeling like you’re failing at something that was never meant to be done without support.
You don’t need to try harder.
You don’t need to be different.
You just need the right guidance.
One last thing
If you’re reading this and thinking:
“I can’t keep doing things the way they are.”
That’s not weakness.
That’s clarity.
And you’re in the right place.
Still wondering if it’s right for you?
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The PAUSE Method™ is a self-guided digital course based around a simple 5-step framework that helps you understand what’s really going on behind your child’s BIG emotions — and how to respond calmly instead of reacting.
P – Physiology – What’s happening in your child’s body when emotions take over.
A – Awareness – Calming yourself first so you can guide them back to safety.
U – Unhelpful Thoughts – Noticing and challenging the stories that fuel frustration or guilt.
S – Stress & Demands – Seeing behaviour as a sign of overload, not defiance.
E – Establish Boundaries – Setting calm, consistent limits that build trust and connection.It’s about pausing before reacting — and learning to respond with confidence, compassion, and understanding.
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Calm In The Chaos: Practical, gentle tools that actually work in the heat of the moment, with an easy-to-remember plan when nothing else seems to work.
Connection That Lasts: A clear path to move beyond survival mode and into rhythms that feel safe and sustainable, so you can reconnect with your child and with yourself.
Less Guilt, More Confidence: A non-judgemental approach that’s rooted in real-life experience and genuine compassion, not shame, blame, or trying to “fix” your child.
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Absolutely! I have literally created The PAUSE Method™ with you in mind! I was in your shoes, I couldn't attend the local community group sessions at 11am on a Tuesday (I was at work), I couldn’t jump on a live call at 7pm on a Wednesday night (the evening doom hours!). I needed something I could access on MY SCHEDULE.
The PAUSE Method™ is exactly that. You can watch the videos or simply listen to them podcast style. You can come back to them whenever you want/need. They’re short and bitesized, you won’t feel overwhelmed by them no matter how busy you are at work or at home. This is the support I needed back when I was ‘in the thick of it’.
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In step 1, P for Physiology, you will learn what is happening to your child when they are in meltdown. This knowledge, combined with the step-by-step action plan and script inside, will change the way you approach the VERY next meltdown (that's just a 10 minute session!).
The change in your response will positively impact on your child immediately.
The PAUSE Method™ will continue to guide you through with compassion so that meltdowns will feel less frequent, less ferocious and less overwhelming, one 10-15 minute step at a time.
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This is why I created The PAUSE Method™. It’s not a full directory, it’s not trying to teach you EVERYTHING you need to know about your child. Because I’ve seen too many parents just like me, who are struggling to just make it through each day - theory doesn’t help us, it overwhelms us.
We need simple, practical steps to get a handle on the meltdowns that are completely consuming us. Until we can find a way to press PAUSE on the meltdown cycle, all the theory in the world isn’t going to help us.
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Lots of people have been booking in for 1:1 support from me once they have worked through The PAUSE Method™ to really help them get clear on what’s going on in other areas of their child’s life, so I thought I’d sweeten the deal for you. On top of your massive 50% saving, you will also get a FREE Bonus Bundle including The PAUSE Wallchart™, PAUSE Pocket Pack™ and discount on 1:1 Coaching worth a total of £62!!
The total value of this bundle is £159 but you can grab it today for just £48.50!
PS: If now’s not the time for the full course, that’s totally okay.
You can still get started with my free meltdown masterclass, Meltdowns Made Simple™ right here