I’m Laura Ellis — an educator, parent coach and creator of
The PAUSE Method™.
I specialise in supporting parents of children who don’t fit the mould — the ones for whom the usual strategies just don’t work — to understand what’s really driving their child’s behaviour and bring calm back to family life.
My approach blends education, behaviour insight and lived experience to help you see your child differently, respond with confidence, and rebuild connection — without constant battles or guilt.
Why I do what I do
Because I’ve been there.
I know in my bones how it feels to wake up already tense — wondering what kind of day it’s going to be, what might set your child off, or whether you’ll have the energy to handle it all again.
I’ve been there — holding it together in public, then crying in the car.
Replaying moments in your head, wondering if you could have handled it differently.
Avoiding eye contact with other parents because you can feel the judgment before they even speak.
I’ve felt the exhaustion of trying to stay calm when every fibre of your body is screaming.
The guilt, the self-doubt, the worry that you’re getting it wrong.
And I know how much it can take over your life.
That’s why I do this work — to help you find calm, confidence, and connection again.
I tried for years to control my child’s behaviour with strategies, charts, and consequences.
I didn’t trust that things could get better without constant structure and control. I believed that if I let go — even a little — everything would fall apart. I spent endless hours worrying about what I was doing wrong, replaying every outburst and searching for the next fix.
Parenting became about surviving the day rather than connecting. And the toll it took on my own mental health was enormous.
I was frustrated, overwhelmed, anxious and constantly on edge.
Every day felt like walking on eggshells — trying to keep things calm, trying to hold everything together. I had no energy left for myself, no confidence in what I was doing, and no real sense of direction beyond “just get through the day.”
I poured everything into trying to control my child’s behaviour — routines, strategies, consequences — but nothing seemed to work for long. And underneath it all, I wasn’t happy. I felt like a spectator in my own life, watching it pass by while I tried to manage the chaos.
I can tell you now — control doesn’t work.
The next reward chart, the next behaviour plan, the next “parenting hack” won’t fix what’s really going on, because the answer isn’t external.
Change starts with understanding — your child’s needs, yes, but also your own patterns, your own nervous system, your own mindset.
That’s where calm and connection begin..
I made a change.
Over the past few years, I’ve shifted my focus from control to connection — and everything’s changed.
I’ve learned how to understand behaviour through a different lens, to recognise what’s really going on beneath the surface, and to respond with calm instead of fear or frustration.
Now, our home feels lighter. I feel calmer, more confident, and more me than I have in years.
I’m deeply passionate about helping other parents find that same sense of freedom — to move beyond the daily battles and start thriving again, both as parents and as people.
Hear it from my clients
My Professional Qualifications
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BA Hons, PGCE. Head of Department. Vocational Education Quality Assurance Lead.
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Senior Professional Tutor in Initial Teacher Education, Engagement and Retention Lead, SEN & Inclusion tutor, Post Graduate Certificate Lead tutor for both Autism Studies and Mentoring & Coaching.
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Certified Autism Coach (NCCAP, CMA, IMHM, ICAHP)
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Accredited Mental Health First Aider (MYA).
